Therapy for women in NYC who are tired of holding everything together
Therapy for women in NYC often begins with a sentence like "I don't even know why I'm so tired." You are managing a job, a home, a relationship, maybe children, maybe parents, and everyone describes you as the capable one.
But capable can be lonely. You remember everyone's appointments and forget your own. You hold your family's emotions and swallow yours. You might be thriving on paper and quietly falling apart at night. Rubina is a woman who has worked with women for more than fifteen years, and she knows how often women arrive in therapy apologizing for taking up space. Here you do not have to.
- LCSW
- CASAC-2
- Author of Stop Being Okay
- Urdu · Hindi · Punjabi
- In person in NYC
- Online across New York
You might recognize yourself here
Women come to Rubina at every stage of life. See whether any of these sound familiar:
- You say yes to everyone and then resent it
- You feel guilty resting, even when you are exhausted
- Your marriage or relationship feels more like a job than a partnership
- You became a mother and lost track of who you were before
- You are successful at work and still feel like a fraud
- You are caring for parents while raising children, and no one is caring for you
- Your children are grown or leaving, and the quiet feels frightening
- You were raised to be good, quiet and agreeable, and it has started to cost you
If even two of these feel true, you deserve a space to talk about them.
What women work on with Rubina
Relationships are one of the most common threads: unhappy marriages, partners who will not share the load, divorce, in-laws, or the loneliness of feeling unseen by the person closest to you. Rubina also works with women on anxiety and perfectionism, burnout from careers and caregiving, people-pleasing and low self-esteem, grief, and the identity shifts that come with motherhood, midlife and empty nests.
For new and expecting mothers there is dedicated support for postpartum and motherhood. For women navigating big changes in work or life direction, life transitions therapy may be the right fit. And for women who want forward-focused support rather than clinical therapy, Rubina also offers life coaching for women.
Culture, family and being a woman
Many of the women Rubina sees grew up in families where a daughter's needs came last. In South Asian, Muslim, Caribbean, Latin American and many other immigrant families, women are often raised to keep the peace, protect the family's reputation and put husbands, children and elders first. Those values can carry real love, and they can also leave a woman with no permission to want anything for herself.
Rubina understands these pressures from the inside. She will never ask you to reject your culture or your faith. She will help you find where your own voice fits inside them. South Asian women may also want to read about therapy for South Asian women, and Rubina runs a group program for desi women called The Good Daughter Burnout.
How therapy helps
In sessions you get to be the one who is listened to. Rubina helps you notice the patterns that keep you overextended, understand where they came from and practice doing things differently — saying no, asking for help, setting limits with family, resting without guilt. She draws on cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, self-compassion focused work and mindfulness, adapted to your life rather than applied by formula.
Change usually starts small. A boundary held for one weekend. A conversation you have been rehearsing for years. A morning that begins with your needs instead of everyone else's. Over time those small changes add up to a life that feels like yours.
What sessions look like
Sessions are 50 minutes, one-on-one, in person in New York City or by secure video anywhere in New York State. Many women prefer online sessions because they can join from the car after drop-off, from a quiet office or from home after the children are asleep.
You can speak in English, Urdu, Hindi or Punjabi. The first session is an initial consultation at $150; ongoing sessions are $125, private pay. See the fees page for full details, or read more about individual therapy.
Rubina K. Singh, LCSW, CASAC-2
Rubina has spent more than fifteen years in mental health. She holds a BSW from Rutgers, an MSW from Capella and is completing her doctorate in social work. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, a CASAC Level 2 addiction counselor, and the author of Stop Being Okay. She grew up between cultures, and she speaks English, Urdu, Hindi and Punjabi.
Questions people ask
Do you only see women?
No. Rubina works with people of all genders, as well as couples and families. But a large part of her practice is women, and she understands the particular pressures women carry.
I feel selfish taking time for therapy. Is that normal?
Very. Many women feel guilty spending an hour on themselves. That guilt is often one of the first things therapy helps with.
Can I come to therapy without my husband knowing?
Yes. Therapy is confidential, and Rubina will not contact your partner or family without your written permission. Online sessions make privacy easier for many women.
What's the difference between therapy and the women's group?
Individual therapy is private, one-on-one clinical care focused on you. The group program is a therapist-led circle for South Asian women working on shared patterns together. Some women do both.
Do you work with women in midlife or with grown children?
Yes. Midlife, menopause, empty nests and caring for aging parents are common reasons women begin therapy, and they deserve as much attention as any other stage of life.
Last reviewed October 13, 2026 by Rubina K. Singh, LCSW
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