Therapist for Long Island — South Asian, Couples & Anxiety
Finding a therapist on Long Island who understands South Asian family life is harder than it should be, especially when your town has a Patel Brothers and three mandirs but no one you would trust with what happens at home.
Rubina K. Singh, LCSW, works with individuals, couples and families across Nassau County and beyond. She grew up between cultures, speaks English, Urdu, Hindi and Punjabi, and knows that moving to the suburbs rarely means leaving the expectations behind.
- LCSW
- CASAC-2
- Author of Stop Being Okay
- Urdu · Hindi · Punjabi
- In person in NYC
- Online across New York
The suburbs where so many desi families landed
Hicksville's Broadway, with its Indian groceries, jewelers and restaurants, is often called Little India for good reason, and New Hyde Park has long drawn Indian and Pakistani families looking for good schools within reach of the city. Westbury, Valley Stream, Great Neck, Syosset and Plainview each have their own mix — doctors and engineers who commuted in on the LIRR for decades, newer families buying their first house, grandparents who came over to help raise the children and stayed.
That pattern shapes what clients from Long Island bring to therapy. The house is bigger, the driveway has two cars, the children are in honors classes — and behind the door there is a marriage that hasn't had a real conversation in years, or a daughter-in-law who has not had an evening to herself since the wedding.
Three stories Rubina hears often from Nassau County
These are composites, not real clients, but they will sound familiar to many families on the Island:
The marriage that runs like a business
Two working parents, two children, his parents living downstairs. Everything gets done and nothing gets said. They come in because one of them finally admitted they feel alone. Couples counseling gives them a place to talk without the house listening.
The daughter-in-law who does everything
She cooks, works, drives the kids, manages her in-laws' appointments and apologizes for being tired. Her husband doesn't understand why she is angry. Individual work on people-pleasing and self-esteem helps her find her own voice before anything changes at home.
The high-achieving son who can't stop
Top of his class, then a top job, then a promotion he dreads. He has panic attacks in the car before work and tells no one. Anxiety therapy helps him understand where the pressure comes from and how to live with less of it.
Where to read next
- South Asian couples therapy →Arranged, love or somewhere in between.
- Therapy for South Asian women →For the daughter, wife and mother with no one to tell.
- South Asian therapist in NYC →Why a desi therapist can make the difference.
- Family therapy →Across generations, languages and expectations.
- Burnout therapy →For the ones who keep going long after they are empty.
- Premarital counseling →Before the wedding, talk about the things nobody mentions.
When grandparents are part of the household
Many Long Island homes include a grandparent or two, and that is often a gift — help with the children, food on the table, a connection to language and faith. It can also mean that every disagreement between spouses has an audience, and that a wife's or husband's needs quietly come last.
Rubina can help you talk about this with respect for the elders involved. Sometimes the work happens in individual sessions. Sometimes it means a family session where she speaks Hindi, Urdu or Punjabi with a parent so they feel heard rather than blamed.
Why video therapy works so well out here
Long Island life happens in cars, between school runs, commutes and family obligations. Adding a drive into the city for a weekly appointment is often the thing that makes therapy fall apart by week three. Video sessions remove that. Couples join from the same laptop after the children are asleep; parents step into a home office during a lunch break.
It is also quieter. In a close community, being seen walking into a therapist's office can feel like news. On a secure video link, nobody knows but you.
What sessions look like
Long Island clients usually meet with Rubina online, anywhere in New York State, over a private and secure video link. In-person sessions in New York City are also available if you prefer to come in.
Individual sessions run 50 minutes; couples and family sessions run an hour. Sessions can be in English, Urdu, Hindi or Punjabi. See the fees page for current rates.
Rubina K. Singh, LCSW, CASAC-2
Rubina has spent more than fifteen years in mental health. She holds a BSW from Rutgers, an MSW from Capella and is completing her doctorate in social work. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in New York, a CASAC Level 2 addiction counselor, and the author of Stop Being Okay. She grew up between cultures, and she speaks English, Urdu, Hindi and Punjabi.
Questions people ask
Do you see clients from Hicksville in person?
Sessions are online across New York State, and in person in New York City. Most clients from Hicksville, New Hyde Park and the rest of Nassau County choose video because it saves the trip and keeps things private.
My husband is reluctant. Can we still do couples therapy?
Often a reluctant partner agrees to one session to see what it is like. If he won't come at all, individual therapy can still change a lot about how the marriage feels. The couples therapy page talks about this.
Can sessions include my parents or in-laws?
Yes. Family sessions can include elders, and Rubina can speak Hindi, Urdu or Punjabi with them so nobody feels left out.
Last reviewed October 13, 2026 by Rubina K. Singh, LCSW
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